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Posted 9 days ago
Hello. New to the community. Mom of 3 girls. My oldest 2 are 18 months apart, polar opposites, and fight like cats and dogs. Our youngest is 1 1/2 and she's learning to fight like her sister's. This weekend she learned the word mean 😩
Liked by Lynna Sutherland
3 days ago
Lissa, welcome to the community! I'm sorry, I know it's heartbreaking to watch your kiddos fight. You love them. And you know deep down that they love each other. But, as with all humans, they have disagreements and conflicts and don't yet have the skills to handle those disagreements and conflicts wisely. It isn't an overnight fix, it's something we'll spend a lifetime learning. But you're in a good place to do that!
3 days ago
Welcome Lissa! I have four daughters ages 7, 9, 11, and 13. My youngest two seem to have the most conflict, in part because they are opposites in many ways. So I can relate! I personally have a strong aversion to conflict of any sort, and so I’ve to reframe my expectations somewhat. As much as I’d like it, it’s not possible to create a conflict-free environment. It’s helped me to look at their conflict as an opportunity to teach them the relationship skills they’ll need in life instead of seeing it as an interruption to my day or even a parenting failure on my part. And to remember that it’s a marathon, not a sprint, and change can be slow. I still resist the urge to run away and hide when they are fighting sometimes. But God knows my weakness and is with me even in that place. I’m praying for strength and comfort for you today.